As a successful NSA dater, I’ve learned things the hard way. Let me make life easier by giving you everything you need to know about casual sex dating.
As a 30-something women that has recently delved into the world of casual sex dating after a particularly unpleasant divorce from a man that was so boring, I’m sure my cat had a more interesting life, I feel I can easily comment on how easy (or how difficult) it is looking for sex from casual dates. I’ve met a range of different guys from the “I’m not looking for a relationship either…” guys that end up falling in love with me after three dates and precisely sixteen bottles of wine, to the “Oh-so-distant” guys whose names I’m not overly sure of, let alone anything else. He’s just in the phone as “Great Sex in Park Guy”, for obvious reasons! 😉
I’ve done the trawling for bars thing and honestly, after the age of about 28, I hardly think this is appropriate. I’m not as young as I used to be, and I can’t handle the drink like I used to. I no longer wanted to look for easy men in packed nightclubs, barely even managing to hear what his name was, let alone what his address was so I could hop to his in a cab later! I wanted to have a nice, relaxed meal in a restaurant, followed by a glass of wine at his place, preceding the amazing, mind-blowing sex I hoped we were going to have. I’m not a twenty-something singley anymore; I’m a 30-something woman, and I expect to be treated as such.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for slapping my ass and pulling my hair, but hooking up with greasy guys in dirty clubs just isn’t my thing anymore.
South African NSA dating sites are actually not quite as seedy as I felt they should be. In my head I had imagined old men, wearing string vests and broken flip-flops, trying to hit on me with old-school chat up lines that would make me snort out my wine in derision. It wasn’t anywhere near as seedy as I thought, which just goes to show that if I was wrong, you probably will be too.
If it’s easy sex you’re looking for, the internet is most definitely the way to go.
There are a few other things I’ve learned in the journey for the perfect NSA sex dating life. Being myself is a must now. In my first few dates, I tried so hard to impress the other person that I just didn’t enjoy the date and, at the end of the night, I found myself going home alone because I had been such terrible company. I no longer care how stupid my laugh looks or how cross-eyed I get after one too many glasses of vino. If he does, he shouldn’t be on the date. He won’t be looking into my eyes as he pounds me from behind, and if I’m laughing during sex, you’re not doing it right.
A few other tips that I’ve learned include being a bit naughty in the profile picture. I’m not baring any flesh that I wouldn’t want to be seen in public, but at the same time, I’m showing just enough to leave you wondering what else is going on. There’s nothing wrong with being a bit flirty. If it’s convention you’re after, you should just join a “regular” dating site. You’re planning on screwing these men and women later, what’s the point in being coy now? 🙂