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Why NSA Sex Will Change Your Life

NSA or Casual sex dating has never had a very good reputation but studies have shown that this style of easy-living could actually benefit your love and sex life…

Studies have been done recently, or so I’ve read, and according to these studies, in 74% of situations where a friends with benefits or NSA situation happens, and both repartees are FULLY AWARE of the casual basis of the relationship, the friendship itself doesn’t dissolve, and the pair actually remain friends through future relationships on both sides of the coin

That’s quite an impressive number, isn’t it? Almost a quarter of all NSA relationships technically work. If you also say that one in three marriages now end in divorce, it almost leads you to believe that one is definitely working out better than the other in today’s society, doesn’t it?

There are a whole load of advantages to be found with NSA sex dating. Take a look at some of these vital points for examples:

  • You don’t have any of the pressures or limitations that often come hand in hand with “regular” relationships. You can do what you want, go where you want, date who you want, and still have mind-blowing sex at the end of the week, or as regularly as you’d both agreed to.
  • It’s easy and to the point. If you are both honest about things up front, you both know where it is going. There’s no awkward conversations or awkward silences. When you’re done, he or she just gets up in the morning, packs their stuff up, and leaves without so much as a request put in for a breakfast menu!
  • Your NSA partner will usually be available to you short notice, and without explanation. You could be drunk at 3am on a Saturday morning, or sober and bored on a Sunday afternoon and looking for a buddy for pub-lunch and secret-car-park sex. There’s no need for an explanation. Just pick up the phone and “Hey, what are you up to?” often does the trick.
  • It’s cheaper than regular dating, that’s for sure! You don’t have to trawl bars until the early hours of the morning, spending a fortune on taxi cabs, new outfits, expensive drinks, and hangover cures. Your liver will appreciate it a whole bunch more, that’s a given.
  • It’s discreet too – there’s no need for the whole relationship status change on Facebook or other social networking sites. There’s no need to introduce them back to your parents, or need to explain to your mates who your new love interest is. Love interest is not the right word through, is it? We’ll go with F-Buddy!
  • It’s comfortable. There’s something quite unnerving about sleeping with different people – you never know what might happen, or how weird things can get. With regular NSA dates with the same people, you know exactly what you’re getting and although things may get weird with odd requests later on in the “relationship”, at least you can have a bit of fun before things get a bit weird. When you are done, there’s no nasty breakup either. Just “Bye!”

There are so many benefits to NSA or casual sex dates. The only thing we need to ask is why you haven’t given it a shot? After all, how can you have an opinion on something that you have never even tried?

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The Insider’s Guide To Creating An Attractive Sex Dating Profile

Getting laid means having an attractive sex dating profile – find out how to get one!

Let’s get to the point about this, shall we? You are not going to have much luck in the sex dating world if you don’t have something to sparkling in your profile. What’s the point in having those little boxes to fill with information if you are not going to fill them out?

Here’s a free little hint for you – we don’t like and won’t reply to those that have sweet FA on their profile pages. If you want to make that sex dating website in South Africa website that you searched for work for you, you’re going to need to put a little work in!

A great profile envelops a lot of different things. You are going to need a good profile picture. This goes without saying. You also need to have information about you to start getting them interested, while leaving enough to the imagination to spark up a message from a potential sex date tonight.

Starting with the profile picture, and there are a few things that you should bear in mind:

*A naked profile picture is fine BUT most people won’t find it all that classy. Try to keep it clean – leave something to the imagination. Men – you may have a massive penis but the ladies love to unwrap something that big that they don’t know about, than wonder at the arrogance of having a penis for a profile picture.

*Make sure it is a current picture. What’s the point in putting up a pic of you in your early twenties, when that was twenty years ago? Surely the date will notice when you turn up and are greyer, fatter, balder, or uglier than you was back then. They won’t jump into bed with you anyway, just because they are there. You are likely to find a glass of water in the face and an empty bed.

*Try to incorporate some of your personality into things. If you like to play football, have a football themed picture as your profile picture – playing, watching, wearing an Ajax Cape Town strip, etc.

Now we come to the most important bit – the bit where you introduce yourself.

You are going to need to have a sense of humor here, but try to get to the point. Who are you? What do you do? Why are you here? What are you looking for? Try to answer those four questions, without it sounding too much like a script, and you will be on the right track. You are at least on the way to having someone show some interest and ask a follow-on question. How can you have a follow-on question to a profile that simply says “If you like what you see, message me!”?

When it comes to getting to the point with your “What are you looking for?” question, try to be as honest as possible. If you’re not looking for a long term friend with benefit, and would much rather prefer a one-night kind of affair, say as such. What’s the point in leading someone on? You may as well be in a relationship.

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If You Read One Article About Looking For Sex Read This One

As a successful NSA dater, I’ve learned things the hard way. Let me make life easier by giving you everything you need to know about casual sex dating.

As a 30-something women that has recently delved into the world of casual sex dating after a particularly unpleasant divorce from a man that was so boring, I’m sure my cat had a more interesting life, I feel I can easily comment on how easy (or how difficult) it is looking for sex from casual dates. I’ve met a range of different guys from the “I’m not looking for a relationship either…” guys that end up falling in love with me after three dates and precisely sixteen bottles of wine, to the “Oh-so-distant” guys whose names I’m not overly sure of, let alone anything else. He’s just in the phone as “Great Sex in Park Guy”, for obvious reasons! 😉

I’ve done the trawling for bars thing and honestly, after the age of about 28, I hardly think this is appropriate. I’m not as young as I used to be, and I can’t handle the drink like I used to. I no longer wanted to look for easy men in packed nightclubs, barely even managing to hear what his name was, let alone what his address was so I could hop to his in a cab later! I wanted to have a nice, relaxed meal in a restaurant, followed by a glass of wine at his place, preceding the amazing, mind-blowing sex I hoped we were going to have. I’m not a twenty-something singley anymore; I’m a 30-something woman, and I expect to be treated as such.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for slapping my ass and pulling my hair, but hooking up with greasy guys in dirty clubs just isn’t my thing anymore.

South African NSA dating sites are actually not quite as seedy as I felt they should be. In my head I had imagined old men, wearing string vests and broken flip-flops, trying to hit on me with old-school chat up lines that would make me snort out my wine in derision. It wasn’t anywhere near as seedy as I thought, which just goes to show that if I was wrong, you probably will be too.

If it’s easy sex you’re looking for, the internet is most definitely the way to go.

There are a few other things I’ve learned in the journey for the perfect NSA sex dating life. Being myself is a must now. In my first few dates, I tried so hard to impress the other person that I just didn’t enjoy the date and, at the end of the night, I found myself going home alone because I had been such terrible company. I no longer care how stupid my laugh looks or how cross-eyed I get after one too many glasses of vino. If he does, he shouldn’t be on the date. He won’t be looking into my eyes as he pounds me from behind, and if I’m laughing during sex, you’re not doing it right.

A few other tips that I’ve learned include being a bit naughty in the profile picture. I’m not baring any flesh that I wouldn’t want to be seen in public, but at the same time, I’m showing just enough to leave you wondering what else is going on. There’s nothing wrong with being a bit flirty. If it’s convention you’re after, you should just join a “regular” dating site. You’re planning on screwing these men and women later, what’s the point in being coy now? 🙂

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Casual Sex Dating Taboos You Should Break

Fancy dipping your toes in the casual sex dating world? Here are some of the biggest taboos that you should break!

Let’s face it; it might be 2015 but casual sex dating is still very much considered to be a taboo. If women indulge in a spot of NSA fun, they are considered to be “easy” or any one of the “bad” words that you’ve probably already heard of. If a guy does it, he gets a slap on the back from his buddies, and every one celebrates with a nice cold beer in their local Bethelsdorp bar.

You can’t deny that double standards still exist, but male and female alike, there are certain taboos that you SHOULD and WILL break through when you enter the realms of the casual sex dating worlds. One thing is most definitely for sure – your life is about to change if you’ve never given this a shot before.

It is bad to sleep with someone on the first date…

Really? Is it really that big a deal if a woman opens her legs on the first date? If she has fun, and he has fun, and it’s consensual, enjoyable sex, who really cares whether or not its the fifth date, or the first?

You should never swap names or phone numbers…

Okay, so if you are cheating on a long term partner (or even short term), giving out real names, Facebook web pages and phone numbers is probably not the best idea in the world. There’s a good chance that you are going to get caught if you leave a paper trail. However, if you are a single pringle, enjoying a few nights out as a single guy or gal, swap names, phone numbers, email address, whatever you want. It could become a regular thing. This doesn’t mean a boyfriend or girlfriend situation; this means a regular casual sex thing with someone that you actually like, and knows how to work you in the bedroom.

Casual sex is dirty…

This is just ridiculous. Most of us have had just as naughty experiences with long term partners, if not naughtier, than they do with the casual sex partners they come across. Admittedly some people out there find it easier to bare their sexual preferences with someone they barely know, but for the most part, there is very little “dirty” (in the bad way) about casual sex dating.

Enjoying great sex can hardly be seen as dirty, can it?

Casual sex dating is just shagging a whole load of different people…

Some casual daters have the same sexual partners for years in a row, barely even thinking about sleeping with anyone else. Just because you are just sleeping with one person, doesn’t mean that it’s evolving into a relationship. You can casually date someone for ever… In fact, most people would probably prefer this. Imagine not needing to go through a breakup!

You can’t learn anything emotionally…

Casual sex dating is MORE beneficial if you want to learn about love, sex, lust and relationships. You will learn about a lot of different people, and you will learn a lot of different lessons, both in the bedroom and out of it. You won’t be hurting anyone’s feelings by choosing to be upfront about your casual dating, and that’s a good thing because honesty is something rarely found these days.

There are a lot of taboos surrounding the topic of casual sex dating but just remember this – gay dating was once seen as a taboo, and they are now allowed to get married in some places! Evolution of relationships – could casual sex dating actually be the future?

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